getting the perfect answer
how to make a choice
the perfect answer
when there’s a clear pattern across my client sessions and my workshop groups each week, i’m bursting to share with you all.
this week i’m noticing that there’s a particular kind of suffering that comes from standing at a crossroads and believing you have to figure out which path is “right” before you take a step.
i see it all the time. when i read this energy it feels like gripping and spinning and panic. it’s a cord of a desperate “i need-to-know before i can move”. usually that’s not coming from our highest selves, but from a “part” that wants control, that doesn’t want to fail, that needs to get it “right” in order to feel safe.
in this article i write about medical choices. you should always consult with your doctors and professionals when making a decision about your health. gathering more information will help you arrive at your intuitive next step.
the devil you know
when you’re stuck in a binary thinking of “this or that”, neuroscience backs up that you only know to act on data that you’ve had in the past. so you’re trying to run the tape of all the historical data—everything you’ve ever experienced, everything that’s happened before—to predict what’s coming next, and keep you safe. you brain would rather re-run a scenario that hurt you in the past, than step into the unknown.
so you’re literally working against your biology. your nervous system wants to reference what it knows, even if it’s not the best for your soul. what you’re being called toward doesn’t have data proof points yet.
which is why i love energy work, because we can learn to override this “programming”, and get new, better data. you can create the life of your wildest dreams, because you had the courage to step into the unknown with excitement and trepidation all at once.
create an intention and a ritual
a client recently came to me with something so many of us carry. over months of working together we’ve been doing deep healing work—nervous system regulation, IFS work, spirit guide journeys—and she is seeing real shifts. and because i know this work works, it’s no surprise her chronic autoimmune disorder is healing.
but months earlier, knowing medication would take time to get approved, she’d started the process of taking a prescription. just in case. and now it had arrived.
she wrote to me: “i’m not sure if the medication is meant to support me, or if i should continue doing the energy work i have been since i’ve been seeing results.”
here’s what i told her:
“there’s real discernment in taking the next steps and also not creating urgency in uncertainty. intuition isn’t meant to be passive—you can still go through the motions to get clarity, so it’s great you got approval. sometimes even just having the medicine nearby can create an energy frequency of healing in your body because your nervous system believes in something that can help you heal.”
she didn’t have to decide perfectly. she just had to stay open.
another client was preparing for something big—a featured documentary, and being seen on a global stage. she’s been doing all the treatments, all the preparation, and struggling about whether it was enough. really what i felt, whether she was enough.
we’ve been working together over several months weekly on her creative channel, her fears, her intuitive abilities. and now she stands at the edge of tour and take off. and that shut her down, and freaked her out.
“is all the breakthroughs i’ve had going to be for nothing? how do i make decisions now?” all relatable worries no matter who you are.
when i looked at the energy and her spirit, there was a clear message. the worry is not coming from her highest self, but from a “part” that wants control, that doesn’t want to fail, that needs to get it “right” in order to feel safe.
here’s what neuroscience tells us about this kind of panic:
when we’re stuck at a crossroads, our brain is literally trying to run the tape of everything we’ve ever experienced to predict what’s coming next. your nervous system would rather re-run a scenario that hurt you in the past than step into the unknown. you’re working against your own biology when you’re being called toward something new.
my client was doing exactly this—future-tripping, trying to prepare herself for the worst by feeling bad now. trying to control outcomes she couldn’t control.
when we dropped in together, her spirit asked the question so many of us are really asking: been doing all the treatments, all the preparation. but underneath all the spinning, all the worry about whether it was enough... and how to make decisions.
when we dropped in deeper to release these blocks, i saw she was trying to prepare herself for the worst by feeling bad now. trying to control outcomes she couldn’t control.
she asked me how to make a decision about a procedure she had scheduled but felt hesitant about. she wanted a “yes or no” from my psychic abilities. because i’m not in the business of outsourcing our power, instead this is what i channeled:
“if you’re asking ‘do i do this procedure or not?’—the answer is: how can you create ceremony and ritual and intention when you do choose? what if you trust your body and intuition and said, ‘i am open. let’s experiment, and if i am not meant to do this, please make it obvious.’”
she paused. “wow. i love this reframe. this is the best advice i’ve ever gotten on this.”
you’re not giving your power away. and you’re not rejecting help out of fear. you’re in partnership—trusting the medicine or procedure to do its job, and trusting your body to know how to heal. trusting that if it’s not aligned, it will be made clear.
an exercise for you to practice
what decision are you grappling with right now?
name it. write it down if you need to.
take a few deep breaths. let yourself sink into where you’re sitting.
now imagine holding that decision in your open hands—like an offering. and say:
“i offer this decision to the universe. i trust that if i move towards this choice and it’s not aligned, it will be made clear to me. i don’t need to know the perfect answer. i just need to trust the unfolding.”
feel your guides receiving it. feel the weight lift.
you are not alone in this. you never were.
with so much love.
stay curious,
christina
You're amazing, I love this!!
Love hearing about the themes you are seeing. I too have been feeling this same way. We are alllll connected!